Do you ever sit around inside the cocoon of your tired relationship and wonder why you're still with this man who doesn't love you? At times he says he does but his actions are anything but lovely. Is it love why he chooses to stay with you and you with him? Is it a travesty that over fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce or are these people the courageous ones?
If even one of your relationships has been anything like a few of mine, then you know why some people remain when it's past due time to be moving along.
First, there is the guy who can't move on although he treats you like dog crap because his own self-esteem is so low and he knows that at least when it comes to you, there will always be someone he can crap on.
Second, he's lazy and sees very little reason for becoming a better man because you have tolerated him for so long; he is comfortable being less of who he knows he can and should be.
Third, he's just plain apathetic when it comes to anything other than his own interests. Basically, he's a narcissist who's confused about the difference between self love and self only.
Fourth, he lives from the perspective of his ego nature and can only see as his options a flight or fight mentality and because he has a deep fear of being alone, he chooses to stay and fight. And unfortunately you reap those benefits, or liabilities.
And finally, although the list is endless, he needs to have a sense of control. He needs to know that in this big and scary world of his, he is the master of his domain, he is the god of his ship and even if he can't control the world and his job, his parents, or his own internal fears, at least he can control YOU!
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