Should You Get Back Together With Your Ex? Love is Lovelier the Second Time Around

Love is lovelier the second time around. Or so says romance novels and real stories. However, the former are escapist fare, while the latter are exceptions to the rule. Still, love is a powerful force that needs another chance at happiness. That said, should you get back together with your ex?

Oh, yes.

Let's face it. You were miserable when you were apart, and you will do anything short of begging to get your love back. You want another chance to make it lovelier for both of you. But first, ask yourself these questions:

* Do you still truly, madly, deeply love each other?
* Can you work through, even forgive and forget the reasons for your break-up?
* Are you the right person for each other, given the past difficulties you have had?
* Do your friends and family approve of a possible reunion?

If your answer to all four questions is a resounding "Yes!", then your answer to the niggling issue of should you get back together with your ex is likewise a resounding "Yes, I do".

A word of caution: Do not cannonball into the reunion. Instead, take your own sweet time in rediscovering each other by going out on dates, trying new things, and talking through your past issues with patience. It will also help to be celibate while you are at it.

Oh, no, no, no, no

On the other side of the "should you get back together with your ex" issue, you should say "No, thanks. I'm done with the relationship" under the following circumstances:

* You want your ex back because you do not want others to have a piece of the pie. You want what others want now because it was yours first. Tsk, tsk.
* You want to prove to yourself and to others that you have what it takes to lure your ex back. Ego is at work here.
* Your friends and family are totally against the idea of a happily ever after the second time around. As tempting as it is, you don't live alone in this world. Besides, you know better than to believe in happily ever after with barely concealed hostility thickening up the tension-filled air during gatherings.

So before you go about finally answering your "should you get back together with your ex" dilemma, think hard, criticize even harder, and question your motives the hardest.